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Too Tired

 

"The Worst Crabbie in the Universe"Too-Tired Crabbie, crabby, tired, sleepy

Have you ever noticed that when your child is too tired he or she is much more likely to be in a bad mood, cry, or even throw a fit over the littlest things? Some parents remark that their child is almost like a different person when overly tired.

Kids get crabby when they are tired because being tired is what psychologists call a vulnerability factor. Not getting enough sleep makes them more vulnerable to getting upset, not thinking clearly, and having other problems. This is true for adults too, but most adults have enough coping skills that they are able to get through a stretch of fatigue without having a total meltdown. Children have fewer coping skills and are more easily overwhelmed by even small shortages of sleep. 

If a child ALWAYS seems over-sensitive, it is very possible that he or she may NEVER be getting enough sleep. It would be very easy to think it’s a personality issue when it’s really just a chronic lack of sleep. Trust us on this! Chronically tired children may exhibit difficult behaviors that you and others have grown to think are their personality. A tired child is more likely to be:

  • Over-reactive or over-sensitive

  • Gloomy

  • Lacking of energy or coordination

  • Unable to focus

  • Impulsive

  • Whiny or cries

  • ‘Wild’

  • having trouble getting along with other kids or may hit others

If your child did not get enough sleep at some point during the week (see Sleep Needs Chart below), the Too-Tired Crabbie will probably show up. Watch for the signs described above and also pay attention to the specific ways your child acts when Too-Tired is the culprit. Soon, these patterns will start to be very clear and you will understand how important it is to Beat the Too-Tired Crabbie

When Too-Tired is on the scene, you can bet that many other Crabbies will show up too! Help your child understand that being a CrabbieMaster of the Too-Tired Crabbies will help him or her also become a CrabbieMaster of the Get-AlongCan’t-DoHurry-Up, and Achy Crabbies. Children who are over-tired have a hard time getting along with others, trying new things, being able to do things that they can easily do when they are rested, listening, doing what is asked when it is asked, and, they are more prone to getting sick. This is why we consider Too-Tired to be “The Worst Crabbie in the Universe!”

Hint: Many adults relate to this concept and recognize that the Too-Tired Crabbie sneaks into their own lives as well. We recommend parents strive to beat the Too-Tired Crabbie along with their children. 

 

Beat TOO-TIRED

The only way to prevent the Too-Tired Crabbies is to be sure your child gets enough sleep.  This means they need to sleep well at night. For many kids, they also need to take a daytime nap or have a resting quiet time. 

We understand that a wide variety of factors may interfere with your child’s sleep. Some problems are occasional (e.g., waking up after a nightmare, didn’t sleep well because of a cough) and others are chronic (e.g., late bedtimes because of busy schedules, older people in the house go to bed later and younger children protest going to sleep earlier). We believe it is important to address chronic factors, even if that means major lifestyle changes for your family, because sleep is so important for child development.

Change the Game on Sleep - The CrabbieMaster Power-Up!

Even when parents know how important sleep is, it can be challenging to get children on board with bedtime and naps. Instead of the 'dreaded nap concept' CrabbieMastershas found a whole new way to tackle this issue. We discovered that even though kids resist naps, they LOVE to Power-Up! We tie the idea of Powering-Up to having more energy to have more fun! We have learned that if kids are asked to do a Power-Up, which is to simply close their eyes and lay still for 20 minutes, they will either be refreshed after the twenty minutes, or, if they are tired they will fall asleep for the nap that they actually need. Kids' resistance to naps is often driven by them not wanting to miss out on anything and thinking that they are too big to nap. The key to Powering-Up is show them that after the rest they will have more energy for more fun.

Even if you do your best to make sleep a priority, sometimes there will be disruption and your child will get the Too-Tired Crabbies. If Too-Tired shows up on a given day, tell your child you think this has happened and then work together to be sure he or she gets a good sleep that night. A nap might also help put Too-Tired right back in its place. Sometimes a 20-minute nap or a quiet rest time is all that is needed to transform your child’s mood. If that works, great!

However, much of the time, once Too-Tired has shown up the best strategy is to do your best not to be upset by your child’s mood and to focus on working together to prevent this from happening in the future. If the case of The Crabbies is really bad, don’t try to reason with your child in the moment, just acknowledge that Too-Tired has gotten into the day and don’t blame your child. Assure them that you notice that Too-Tired is causing problems today and that you will help them Beat Too-Tired by helping them get better rest. Our experience is that most children do not like how they feel when the Too-Tired Crabbie has gotten them. They are usually relieved that you are going to help them with this problem and they become willing to be on your team as you both become CrabbieMasters of the Too-Tired Crabbies.

How do you know if your child is getting enough sleep? The following information may serve as a guide.

Sleep Needs Chart*

Average number of hours of sleep needed per day, including night-time sleep and naps:

Infant (0-12 months) - 14-18 hours 
Toddler (13-36 months) - 13 hours
Preschooler (3-6 years) - 12 hours
School-age (6-12 years) - 10-11 hours
Adolescent (13-19 years) - 9.25 hours
Adult (20+ years) - 8.25 hours

*Average sleep needs according to the book Sleepless in America, by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, (p. 123). Note, some sleep needs vary by person, some need less and some need more, these are general guidelines.