Too-Tired truly is the Worst Crabbie in the Universe, but with good tricks to beat him he can be brought under control like any other Crabbie. 🙂
The good news is we can actually use the Too-Tired Crabbie himself to motivate your child to want to sleep!
Here’s how it works:
Generally speaking, the way we teach kids to beat the Crabbies is to learn what they like and then do just the opposite. “We know what they like! We just don’t do it!”
Over the years I have figured out how to approach this. Rather than focusing on the need for sleep directly, I focus on one of the consequences of not sleeping.
The key reality for Too-Tired is that he does not like to have fun!
He is simply Too-Tired.
As CrabbieMasters Jay and Kay point out in a few excerpts from Here Comes Too-Tired:
And as Too-Tired confirms:
But kids DO love to have fun!
So, what I focus on is the fact that by not sleeping, napping, resting, or having any quiet time,
Too-Tired doesn’t have any energy and he misses out on all the fun!
If you don’t want to miss out on fun, “Beat Too-Tired!”
Our goal in writing the CrabbieMasters Beat the Crabbies series of books is to model real-life experiences where Crabbies sneak into the day and model what CrabbieMasters do to take charge.
In the same way the book is a model for the consequences of Too-Tired, there will be times when your child lives these consequences. You will be getting ready to go to the park and he will have a meltdown because you asked him to put on his shoes by himself or you will be at the beach and she will start screaming because she wanted the blue sand shovel, not the red one! These are times to be the CrabbieMaster leader and point out that the fun is being spoiled by the Too-Tired Crabbie.
I stress that you should only point it out in the moment if you can manage to do it in a non-emotional supportive way. Otherwise, recognize it yourself, get past the situation, and then bring it up after the child has had some sleep. It does not feel good to your child when they lose control. A well-rested child will see the relationship between the meltdown and being tired. Now you will be able to talk about sleep being the way to beat the Too-Tired Crabbie so that he does not spoil the fun. In fact, it was after one of those meltdowns that a five -year old child woke up from the nap she had fought and announced, “Too-Tired is the Worst Crabbie in the Universe!”
Make it a great day!
“I’m a weekend warrior!” King exclaimed.
“Ha, ha, King! You are no such thing,” Kay said.
“Come on, King. You’re a crab. You are far from a warrior.”
“I am more than a crab. I am a WEEKEND WARRIOR!”
Kay let out a loud sigh. “What makes you think that, King? You need to explain this to me.”
“Well, all my Crabbies are out ruining the day for people all across the country! From the east coast to the west coast.”
“Um, King. Jay just chased Too-Tired away, so I don’t think he’s out ruining anyone’s day, especially across the country!”
“Nonsense, Kay. Too-Tired has a lot of legs. He can make time.”
“No way! Look down there!” Kay said, pointing to a tree a few yards away.
“He’ll get going. You’ll see. We are WEEKEND WARRIORS!”
“King, look again. He’s leaning against the tree and he’s sleeping.”
“Well, um… well, um… you know, Kay. I really should get a move on. I have to be in Oregon soon.”
Kay laughed. “Okay, King. If you say so, you big ole weekend warrior.”
And with that, King strolled away. He went over to Too-Tired and let out a scream. “Wake up, Too-Tired. We have work to do!”
Too-Tired jumped up and yawned.
“You two are some weekend warriors,” Kay called out. “You can go anywhere you want. You’ll always find CrabbieMasters! And you don’t even know what it means to be a weekend warrior. You silly Crabbie. You don’t try to ruin the day only on the weekends!”
“Whatever, Kay,” King yelled, and he and Too-Tired walked away… slowly.
We think it’s going to take them a long time to get to Oregon!
Hi all! It’s me, Too-Tired. I’ll be doing the writing today. You see, Miss Becky is out on a lake somewhere, in a canoe, enjoying the sun and having a good time. But… she forgot to close her computer, so here I am! Tee hee! Miss Becky, you’ve been hacked!
So… this is what I want you all to know. I am NOT the worst Crabbie in the universe. Nope. Not me. I love making you all tired and crabby, but that doesn’t make me the worst Crabbie. Nope. Not me.
I am going to make Miss Becky tired. Sun and fun can really tire out humans, but not me. We crabs live in sand and water. We love the sun and we love fun. It’s an easy day for me. I have the sun and fun to help me. Tee hee!
Uh oh! Here comes CrabbieMasters Jay and Kay. I’ll hide until they go away.
Pay no attention to Too-Tired. He thinks he’s not the worst Crabbie in the universe, but he is! And… he should not be touching anyone’s computer without permission. He may think he outsmarted Miss Becky, but he didn’t. She’s coming in the door right now, and she’s not tired at all. She’s carrying a big, heavy bag and she’s singing a song. That’s right, Too-Tired. Time for you to leave.
Pay no attention to silly Too-Tired. He thinks he’s clever, but he’s not. Oh look! Miss Becky is shooing him away. She told him not to come back today or any day!
He’s running out the door with his claws between his legs. Poor Too-Tired, NOT.
BYE BYE TOO-TIRED!
Boy, it sure was a busy weekend with lots of things to do and then yesterday was Mother’s Day. For some of us that means Monday morning can be hectic.
When things get hectic, Hurry-Up gets happy. He loves it when kids are tired and cranky and make mom or dad late. He loves when kids are late for school. In fact, he loves anything late.
Hurry-Up sometimes depends on his pal Too-Tired to ruin the day. Getting a good night’s sleep can help keep Hurry-Up away because sometimes we oversleep and that makes us have to rush, rush, rush and that can make us late, late, late.
We here at CrabbieMasters headquarters hope that wherever you venture today, you’re on time!
Yesterday, we sprang ahead an hour and today some of you are feeling it. The blah, tired feeling as we try to adjust to losing an hour’s sleep.
This is a day Too-Tired loves. He’s been prancing around, singing a song. It goes like this:
La la la la
La la la
Are you tired today?
I knew I’d get my way.
Drag your feet, sleepy head
Let the yawning spread.
La la la la
La la la.
Oh, look! It’s time for bed!
Yes, Too-Tired thinks he’s a rock star. He has learned rhyming words, so he’s really full of himself.
We know for some it can be a hard day as we adjust to the time difference. Some of you are lucky and live where there’s no changing the clocks ever! For those of us who must, we may have lost an hour’s sleep, but we gained an hour of daylight, and an hour of daylight means were closer to spring.
We hope you get a good night’s sleep tonight!
The CrabbieMaster are happy that it’s Monday. Why are they so happy to celebrate the beginning of a new week when usually people feel blah after the nice weekend?
Because Monday brings us one day closer to spring!
“Winter is fun,” said CrabbieMaster Kay. “But sometimes the weather is stormy or too cold to play outside. I like to play outside in the fresh air.”
“I like playing in the fresh air too,” said CrabbieMaster Jay. “Fresh air helps to keep the Crabbies away.”
“That’s right, Jay,” said Kay. “Fresh air and lots of exercise help keep the Crabbies aways, especially Too-Tired, the worst Crabbie in the universe.
“Oh, Too-Tired, we were just talking about you,” Jay said. “We weren’t calling for you. Kay was just telling me how fresh air and lots of exercise are a good way to keep you away.”
“But… I don’t like it when you get fresh air, and I don’t like it when you exercise.”
“That’s too bad!” said Kay. “We know how to keep you away. We know how to keep you out of our day!”
“That’s right,” Jay agreed. “Even though it’s winter, we still get fresh air and exercise. We know it’s good for us, and you know it’s good for us, and we can’t wait for spring when we can get even MORE fresh air and exercise.”
“Fresh air. Exercise. No, no, no. I don’t like that one bit,” Too-Tired squealed.
“Too bad, Too-Tired,” Jay and Kay said together. Jay waved his cape at Too-Tired. “You can go now. Kay and I are going for a walk and we’re going to enjoy the fresh air that will help us stay healthy and help us get a good night’s sleep.”
We hope you’re looking forward to spring and more outdoor fun too!
How do you know when Too-Tired moves in?
In my last post I talked about how all the Crabbies take advantage of us when we are tired. It’s tough for all of us when we get tired, but for young kids, it’s even harder.
There are a number of recognizable signs that someone is tired:
For years, there was no real research on how much sleep is needed. In working with preschoolers, I noticed that if kids had less than 11 hours it was going to be an issue, if not the first day, later in the week. If they had 12 hours, they were going to be remarkably cooperative and reasonable. Now research is out, and the below chart states the optimal number of hours for various age groups.
Average number of hours of sleep needed per day, including nighttime sleep and naps:
Infant (0-12 months) – 14-18 hours
Toddler (13-36 months) – 13 hours
Preschooler (3-6 years) – 12 hours
School-age (6-12 years) – 10-11 hours
Adolescent (13-19 years) – 9.25 hours
Adult (20+ years) – 8.25 hours
With the holidays close by, and the excitement of Santa’s arrival, it can cause insomnia and that means Too-Tired is not far behind. Be sure to get a good night’s sleep every night and send a message to Too-Tired that he’s not welcome in your day today or any day!
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