Believe it or not the Get-Along Crabbie and the skunk have something in common!
They both have the power to cross your path and leave a stink you have to deal with.
In my experience, the Get-Along Crabbie is often the culprit when it comes to those days that something happens in the morning and then it’s hard to let go of it for the entire day. And more extreme – I have even heard of cases where elementary children, after a year of daily conflict, are split up in school so that they won’t be in the same class the next year.
Many times, throughout my education, I’ve heard that there is a ‘magic ratio’ when it comes to relationships. The ratio they are referring to is the number of positive interactions it takes to make up for those inevitable negative interactions. Early on I heard the ratio as, ‘It takes three positive interactions to every negative one to even things out.’ Just now I did a little Google search and found a source that claims the ratio to be five to one in order to maintain positive long last relationships.
About twenty years ago, after hearing that one of my former preschoolers was being bullied in school, I declared that the number one preschool rule was “Be Nice!” That has turned out to be one of the best things I ever did in creating the main tenets for being CrabbieMasters in my preschool. It was amazing how being intentional and how instructing kids on ways to work out problems made a such difference on a daily basis and long term. The simple rule to ‘Be Nice’ often triggered me to find ways to give kids opportunities to be kind to each other in ways that consistently changed our daily dynamics for the positive.
There are still times when a child may be impulsive (most often when they are tired) and may say or do something to another child that is not kind. The big difference is that when the mindset is “Be Nice,” such incidents are more likely to be isolated versus chronic. The child who was mistreated understands that it was a mistake on the part of his or her friend and they are less likely to retaliate because in talking about how to beat Get-Along we have already frequently talked about the best ways to ‘work things out.’
As I said above, teaching kids to beat Get-Along does require intentionality. For more on how (and why J ) to beat Get-Along, check out www.crabbiemasters.com/get-along.
Make it a great day!
It’s June! Time for some summertime fun! Campgrounds and beaches are open and for many it’s warm enough to enjoy all kinds of outside activities. Hey – looks like a ball game is about to get going!
Here’s a few more of Jay and Kay’s favorite ways to enjoy summer fun:
I like camping! I get so excited when Dad says we’re going camping. I get so excited I can’t even sleep. Too-Tired tries to sneak up on me, but I get good night’s sleep anyway so I can enjoy everything! I do a Power-Up by closing my eyes until Too-Tired goes away and I drift off to sleep. That way I have energy for the whole next day!
They also love watching Jay and Kay’s ball games with friends. And climbing around together on all the fun equipment at the park. Lots of fun teamwork is great at keeping Get-Along away!
Ha! Even though King tries to send in the Crabbies on their little missions, CrabbieMasters know how to stop them.
Right in their tracks!
What’s your favorite summertime fun?
Whew! It’s been a long few days as we’ve been wrangling with Get-Along. You see, Get-Along got a little bit jealous (okay, a lot jealous) of King and Hurry-Up because they were featured on our blog. So… Get-Along tried to ruin the day, actually a few days, but we finally got him in line.
Before we did, he was everywhere. First, he snuck in the window at Miss Becky’s preschool. Her students knew right away what to do. They put Get-Along on notice and they sent him away. We here at Team CrabbieMasters thought that would be the end of Get-Along’s attempts, but no. Guess where he went next? He went to Jenna’s house. Do you remember Jenna? We introduced her in our last post. Well… Get-Along rang her doorbell and knocked and rang some more.
“Let me in,” Get-Along shouted.
“Who’s there?” Jenna asked.
“It’s me, Get-Along, and I want in. You were featured on Team CrabbieMasters blog, and I want equal time.”
“Sorry, Get-Along. I don’t do the blog. You need to take your complaint elsewhere and do it nicely,” Jenna politely said.
“Fine! Some help you are!” Get-Along squealed as he stormed off.
We thought that was the end of it, but the next day, who rang Miss Becky’s doorbell? You guessed it!
Miss Becky knew just what to do, and Get-Along… well, he finally gave up. But… he is getting featured. You see, sometimes when we don’t get along with someone, others see it or hear about it. So, it’s important to always try to get along with everyone 🙂
Until the next time, stay happy!