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Identify the Culprit

Identify the Culprit

The first step in beating the Crabbies is determining which Crabbie or Crabbies are responsible for the problem.

Jay and Kay juggling all eight Crabbies.

Let’s look at a few scenarios:

Scenario 1: Your child is having a meltdown when he or she is learning to tie their shoes, ride a bike, or jump into a swimming pool. They say, “I can’t do it.” Or, “I am scared!” or, “It’s too hard!”

These words are most definitely associated with Can’t-Do.

Can't-Do Crabbie looking up.

 

Scenario 2: A child yells, “Give me that!” and hits a sibling or peer because, “She took my toy!”

This behavior is definitely an indicator of Get-Along.

CrabbieMasters Jay and Kay arguing with Get-Along in foreground

“You have to share! I’m telling!”

 

Scenario 3: You have asked your children to get ready, so they won’t be late for school, but they continue to dawdle.

These are behaviors associated with Hurry-Up.

Mom in car waiting for Jay and Kay walking to car, but slowed down by Hurry-Up sitting in grass by the garage door.

 

Scenario 4: Your children are being generally wild and ignore your pleas to settle down, so they don’t get hurt.

This are behaviors associated with Junk-Food and the King.

Jay jumping on couch with Kay standing in front with arms folded.

 

The truth is that the Crabbies we have called out in each of the scenarios are problems.

However, another truth is that it is highly likely that these Crabbies are not the primary problem.

We break the Crabbies into two groups:

The Primary Crabbies – Too-Tired, Hungry, Junk-Food and Achy

Too-Tired Crabbie cradling little bear in his arm.Hungry Crabbie holding fork and spoon looking dizzy from hunger.

Junk-Food Crabbie holding chocolate donut and strawberry ice cream cone in his pincers.Achy Crabbie with thermometer in his mouth and a hot water bottle on his head.

The Secondary Crabbies – Can’t-Do, Get-Along, Hurry-Up and King

Can't-Do Crabbie with wild eyes and pincers to mouth looking afraid.Get-Along Crabbie with his red boxing gloves on and his tongue sticking out.

Hurry-Up Crabbie wearing inline skates running wild with legs scrambling, pincers up in the air and dust trailing behind.King Crabbie with gold crown looking up and raising his scepter high in the air.

 

The Primary Crabbies are associated with our physical well-being. When any of these Crabbies are on the scene, we are more vulnerable to the other Crabbies. Likewise, if we have the primary Crabbies in check, the secondary Crabbies are much more manageable.

When determining which Crabbie or Crabbies are interfering with the day, mentally run through the list of primary Crabbies and ask yourself these questions:

  • Is the child lacking sleep? Maybe still tired from the weekend even though they were in bed early on Sunday night?
    • Preschoolers (3-6 years) – 12 hours
    • School-age (6-12 years) – 10-11 hours
  • Is the child possibly hungry? (When did they last eat and how much did they eat?)
  • Did the child possibly eat high carbohydrate or sugary food that gave them a burst of energy, but it was not long-lasting like something higher in protein would have been?
  • Is the child possibly getting ill, or are they struggling with seasonal allergies?

If any of the above is an issue, you will need to call out the Primary Crabbie as the main culprit knowing that he brought the Secondary Crabbie along. Sending in more than one Crabbie is one of the King’s favorite tricks – and we CrabbieMasters are onto it!

 

Make it a good day!

Becky 🙂

 

 

 

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